what can i do? My x lets my son who is going to be 17 this month drink beer.?My sons have to go stay with their dad for a month during the summer and while he was there in July my son said his dad went and bought a lot of beer and they sat and drank it one night....my x is not being a parent and i think this is some kind of abuse...my x even knew about my son drinking at a friends this weekend and didn't even call and tell me about it. My son said he told his dad and his dad said "just don't do anything crazy"...i had a police officer come and talk with my son and explain the consequences and i hope it helps...but i don't know what to do about this x...my son hates me because i have rules...i don't want my son to grow up being a alcoholic like his father. And my son is very hateful toward me, because he says all i do is harp. And he gets mad and very physical..i told him i would take him to therapy but he said if i tried it he would just run away.
Answer by mannliz
You have to let the apron strings go sooner or later,I let my son drink alcohol at 17 as long as it was in my presence.He is now a 30yr old husband and father,who only drinks on special occasions
Answer by Tundra V
all kids do it at that age to me at least his father is there i no for a fact that kids that age do and i think its better for you to no and not get angry cause if you get angry he will not tell you what his up to and something might go wrong i would rather my boys told me than hid it from me so i could explian that i dont want them to turn out like there dad but as long as they do it in moderation it is ok he i growing up and will get embaressed if you tell him and his friends not to than will try and rebell more so good luck but id talk to him and explain it hurts you but you want him to be happy and not hide it from you you would rather no and maybe bye him six drinks if he goes out one weekend so you no he is only having a few
Answer by freedomsring23
Well he needs to know that you can be put in JAIL for providing him alcohol. He needs to understand that in your house, your rules are NO DRINKING. If his father lets him drink, his father can be put in jail for providing alcohol to a minor. Yeah, my parents let me get away with trying a glass of wine here and there, but I wasn't going off to parties or drinking cases with my parents!
Your son needs to understand that this behavior is not appropriate, at least for another 4 years. He's going to "hate" you, but he'll grow out of his phase. His father is being the "cooler" parents right now, and at 17, he probably wants to be a stud in front of his friends.
Try talking to a local police office again. They should have DARE counselors who give classes at schools.
Also, talk to his father. He needs to understand that this is not acceptable to you. If he persists and continues, maybe you can speak to a lawyer about getting full custody? Since providing alcohol to a minor IS illegal.
Good luck =) Keep your head up!
Answer by Cloudcity CC
So... your son was drinking... one night... and on a weekend... ? and hes 17...
I hate to tell you, but if thats the worst thing your son ever does is occasionally spend a night drinking, you're a rather lucky parent.
Alcoholism is needing to drink on a daily basis...
You sound far too overprotective and controlling, and that only ends up provoking teenagers...
Answer by dontstandoncorners
ok, coming from a 20 yo. i can tell you i did the the same thing to my parents my parents where together but one would tell me go drink and screw all i want and the other wanted me to be responcible young adult. hmm 17 well make him first most understand that no matter what if he drinks to not drive that you will always be there to help him if he needs a ride or drinks to much and not lecture him at first. his safety should be first. i can tell you that even if your x said no drinking he still would if he is the party type and at least he is drinking with a adult maybe not a responcible one but he im sure wont let him od. or drive. tell your son that you care for him and love him and just dont want him to drink irresponcibity not to not drink at all just to think and do well in life. i hope for the best result in your situation good luck
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